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I purchased a really cute pair of patent 'non-leather' slingbacks that I totally love, however, like any shoe with a heel they cause me pain due to a swollen knuckle on my big toe.

 

I've been wearing them around the house to see how bad it is and have found that while the pain isn't huge, they are uncomfortable. I would wear them with a dress to dinner on the ship and probably change into flats after supper. Is it worth it to look good for a little while? How much discomfort do you endure in the name of fashion?

 

Thanks - I look forward to hearing your answers! Laura

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Think I might return them and go for real leather or suede which will 'give', once worn in.(.or worn with socks around the house.) Or perhaps fabric ..microfibre ??

 

You might also be able to get leather/suede stretched at an old fashioned cobber's shop.

 

There are also devices called shoe stretchers that might help expand the width. I bought one in a market..takes a long time to work though.

 

Don't think synthetic shoes have much stretch/ give.

 

Good luck.

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I made the decision to abandon high heels after an awful experience a few years ago. It was my son's graduation from University and I wore some cute heels. Sadly I was very uncomfortable and could barely walk at the end of the day. An important event and extremely happy and exciting day was marred by my shoe discomfort. I never put them on again.

 

I did buy some cute wedges after that, though - very fashionable and comfortable because my weight is balanced over the entire foot instead of on one small point of my heel. Much better. :D

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If my feet aren’t happy, I’m not happy & everyone knows it! I agree with ohnotmeagain, life is too short to wear uncomfortable shoes!

 

 

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None, zippo, nada.

 

Granted I'm in my 50's now. In my 20s, I would have put up with the discomfort to look good.

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What is uncomfortable while walking around your house will be excruciating after walking around a ship. At least it would be for me - I walk a LOT more on cruises, even if it’s just to dinner and back to the cabin. If it were me, I would find another pair that doesn’t cause pain. :)

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I purchased a really cute pair of patent 'non-leather' slingbacks that I totally love, however, like any shoe with a heel they cause me pain due to a swollen knuckle on my big toe.

 

I've been wearing them around the house to see how bad it is and have found that while the pain isn't huge, they are uncomfortable. I would wear them with a dress to dinner on the ship and probably change into flats after supper. Is it worth it to look good for a little while? How much discomfort do you endure in the name of fashion?

 

Thanks - I look forward to hearing your answers! Laura

See you are on our Panama Canal Cruise next January :)

I have some dressy low pumps from Earth shoes for that. https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B013JLCH0W/ref=oh_aui_search_detailpage?ie=UTF8&th=1&psc=1

Also have Romika dressy flat and wedged sandals.

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00F4H6QT8/ref=oh_aui_search_detailpage?ie=UTF8&th=1&psc=1

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01KY78P4Q/ref=oh_aui_search_detailpage?ie=UTF8&th=1&psc=1

I watch for low prices on Amazon and then pounce.

They feel so good with arthritic joints.

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I have endured two stress fractures in my right foot, full fractures in both feet, multiple screws in both feet, and now the bones cracking again because the screws are poking through them.

 

Would I CHOOSE to wear something that hurt my feet? No.

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Still having a hard time even thinkng that anyone who finds shoes the least bit painful at home would even consider taking them on a cruise. :confused:

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Hi Laura, back again to ask if you would consider a wedge sandal or another kind of sandal with a thicker heel? I see you are in Canada as am I; here are a few to just start thinking about:

 

https://www.ninewest.ca/products/pruce-20?variant=1538662924293

 

https://www.ninewest.ca/pages/search-results?findify_limit=24&findify_q=wedges%20sandals

 

What do you think? Super cute, new, up-to-date, but look more comfortable than the regular slingback heel you have described.

 

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Thanks for everyone's feedback. Yes, it is crazy to wear something uncomfortable... I usually wear blundstone boots or keen sandals, neither of which are good with a dress. It is tricky for me to find a shoe as anything that presses over the joint of my right big toe is uncomfortable. I was stomped on by a horse years ago and that joint has some arthritis. Something strappy is way out.

 

The heel is a good height and I find them very easy to walk in (even did 1/2 mile on the treadmill with them on), but they do press a bit on my big toe.

 

Maybe I have to take them back :-( or at least leave them home for our next cruise... or bring them and wear them one night for formal night and give all you helpful ladies an opportunity to say 'I told you so'!

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See you are on our Panama Canal Cruise next January :)

 

Yes! We have been booked for several months. It started off just us, then another couple decided to join us, then the friends we've cruised with before, then her cousin, and now her cousin's friend, so it should be fun!

 

Thanks for the shoe suggestions. I have such a time with finding shoes that I only order online when it is possible to do a store return. Someday I might get adventurous and risk Amazon.

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Hi Laura, back again to ask if you would consider a wedge sandal or another kind of sandal with a thicker heel? I see you are in Canada as am I; here are a few to just start thinking about

Those are cute, thanks for putting in the link. I think I'd be in the same boat as the slingbacks though :-( My best bet is a loafer that comes up high on my foot, but would't that look sweet with a LBD :eek:

 

Maybe I need to stick with pants where you can't see my foot.

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I wear uncomfortable shoes when I know I'm going to be sitting. Usually church or restaurant. I'm 62 and I will put up with a lot to look nice

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Yes! We have been booked for several months. It started off just us, then another couple decided to join us, then the friends we've cruised with before, then her cousin, and now her cousin's friend, so it should be fun!

 

Thanks for the shoe suggestions. I have such a time with finding shoes that I only order online when it is possible to do a store return. Someday I might get adventurous and risk Amazon.

Panama will be very casual for me so no shoe issues on that one.

If you have Amazon prime it's easy to do returns. We have really limited shoe stores here so Amazon is my go to place. I tend to wear Tevas or go barefooted in the house.

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Those are cute, thanks for putting in the link. I think I'd be in the same boat as the slingbacks though :-( My best bet is a loafer that comes up high on my foot, but would't that look sweet with a LBD :eek:

 

Maybe I need to stick with pants where you can't see my foot.

I often wear a long black dress from Chicos Travellers line with black flat sandals.

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I have a very wide foot and have trouble buying any shoes that fit well. I do have 2 pairs of black, strappy sandals that are perfect for formal nights. They are too thin on the sole and the balls of my feet hurt and usually my pinky toe. So not wearing either pair anymore. If my shoes hurt I will wear for pics and through dinner then back to the cabin to change shoes and or complete outfit.

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None, zippo, nada.

 

Granted I'm in my 50's now. In my 20s, I would have put up with the discomfort to look good.

 

I agree (altho I'm I'm my early 60's).....I wore uncomfortable shoes (altho they looked great!) up into my 40-50's.

 

Headed on a cruise in a week, ditched the most uncomfortable ones in favor of some older (but less uncomfortable) ones.

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I understand the dilemma. And wanting to look good, or cute, or whatever word you prefer, but I question how good anyone looks when their feet are uncomfortable. Our bodies respond to the pain and will compensate and do things without our knowledge to try to move or stand or do whatever it takes to lessen the pain...and in the end...when our bodies do that...or our faces have a slight pinch to them because of being uncomfortable, well...we don't really end up looking cute or good, or whatever positive word we want to use, at all.

 

I'm still in the dilemma a bit because I ruptured my ACL a few years ago now. With conservative treatment, I have had no surgery and live without an ACL, so footwear is something that I take very seriously. Especially on a cruise...which is full of shiny, easy to clean slippery surfaces...and stairs...and slick decks...and just lots of steps in general...all of which occur on a moving vehicle which can experience "turbulence" and so I opt for comfort and safety above all.

 

But I do strive to find style in the midst of that. Keep looking, I'd say. And get creative in your thinking. I found a pair of sleek bronze oxfords that I wore on formal nights...with dresses...and they were fabulous. I was so happy to have happy feet.

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My feet have never been happy in heels or any shoe that's uncomfortable. Luckily I'm tall, so I never really felt the need to "go high". As I've gotten older, I feel like I'm on a constant hunt for shoes that are comfortable, well-made, supportive, and also look good. It ain't easy...! ;)

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There is a spray you can buy to stretch shoes but I think it only works for real leather that would have some stretch.

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If I loved them I would go to a shoe repair place and see if they could stretch the toe area. Even if its not leather some materials can be stretched!

 

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I agree with the "if it uncomfortable I don't wear it" premise.....I can't see wearing shoes that are going to cause me pain.

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If you have "problem" feet, you should not buy online...takes too much time to receive and return. Go to a shoe store and TRY SHOES ON! Wear them for a long time...walk around....fast and slow. Dance a bit! Do the things you'd likely do in them. If they don't feel good after 15 mins...they are not the right shoe for you. Shoes don't "become more "comfortable" if they don't start out comfortable!

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I must be comfortable, but I also choose to wear heels all evening, every evening. The solution for me is to wear only heels with a strap (mary janes). Then they don't have to be overly snug, or stiff, to stay in place. No platform style, as they don't flex with my feet. Think ballroom dance shoes, but more attractive.

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This is only the second time I've ordered online - I figured, what the heck, I'm not going to get to the shoe store before they arrive anyway. I do have problem feet and am learning what type of shoe works. Anything the an edge along the upper toe line is usually out: no ballet flats for me :-(

 

For some reason these are only moderately uncomfortable and not particularly painful. I've decided to keep them (and thanks for everyone's input!!!), even if only to wear on a date night at home. It is a rare LBD that looks great with flats! They were only $40 so not a big loss if I barely wear them. I MIGHT bring them on my next cruise for one of the formal nights, but I'll have flats as well. I am taking a suitcase as well as my carryon so I should have room/weight.

 

The rest of the time my shoes will be my ultra comfortable keen sandals, and I'll be thinking of you ladies when I slip them on ;-)

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I have learned over the years not to wear anything even a little uncomfortable. By the end of the event or evening I am miserable just wanting it to be over with so I can get home and change.

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If you have "problem" feet, you should not buy online...takes too much time to receive and return.

Um, no.

I live 1-2 hours from good shoe stores. Some stores or brands I like aren't available in my state in a brick & mortar store at all. It is FAR easier for me to order a bunch (typically brands I know well, even if I'm trying on different styles that might not work as well for my feet) and try on at home than to drive hours around all over the place. You do you, but that is NOT the only way or the easiest or the best way to get shoes.

As for how much pain I will endure- none. If a shoe isn't comfortable, I keep looking.

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I wear uncomfortable shoes when I know I'm going to be sitting. Usually church or restaurant. I'm 62 and I will put up with a lot to look nice

 

 

Same here! I have "dinner shoes"! Which means; from the car - to the restaurant - seat & eat - back to the car and home. :')

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