crzergrl

Hello everyone, I;m a transwoman (MTF) and will be going on a TA from Rome to San Juan. I just got off the phone with RCCL, they told me to come as I wish to be known as, but my name will have to stay male on my sail pass since that is what is on my passport. They told me that I should have nothing to worry about at the ports. My other question that they could not answer is how I should fly, should I fly as male to make everything easy especially traveling from USA to Rome.

Thanks for all the help

I am a woman with a trans history. :-) Before I transitioned fully I did fly domestically once with a "wrong" name and gender. It worked out OK but I didn't like it. Just too stressful wondering what might happen. Given where you are going you probably would be OK. It most likely won't be an issue on the ship no matter how you show up. If you are planning on transitioning at some point a legal name change and new passport with correct gender is the best route. My job and cruising have taken me around the world and I have had no problems. Of course, I avoided the middle east just in case and as a matter of principle. :-)

One more thought. From your signature it looks like you may be married. If so, ask them how they feel about traveling with document mismatch before you decide.

This is a good thread!

I am a woman who is trans and at dinner on board with our children my wife and I were asked "which one is the mother?" I did say I was their father and it was taken as a joke and got laughs. This was with a lovely gay couple that we have become friends with and like very much. I did treat it as a teaching moment and sat down in private telling them about me and offered to answer any questions about being trans they had.

We had a cabin attendant ask if we wanted our beds separated with an apology that they were together. I just told him no.

On a shore tour once I was asked if I "had the surgery?" I am tempted to say "let's talk about your genitals/ surgeries first" but I didn't :-).

Thanks for the info. No, we are on one in May. I watched the new episodes of "House of Cards" and one episode had an imprisoned in Russia gay US citizen protester in it who was arrested under the new law. Boy that is all I need to see. :-) I don't plan to protest just be a tourist type.

Thanks EdmPair for your thoughts. The situation in Russia was something that we took into consideration for our cruise decision. We do really want to see the Baltic cities. A stop in SPB is on every cruise we could take based on our schedule. So the decision came down to getting off the ship or not in SPB. We have decided to do a tour but not buy anything extra as a compromise.

These decisions are always grey for me. Do we buy popcorn from our next door neighbor boy scout when he comes to the door?

Thanks for info on your experiences in SPB. I feel better about this.

We are booked on a Baltic cruise for next summer. Although we are looking forward to seeing the city I am concerned about the stop in St. Petersburg. I am a woman (MtF trans with correct passport) and will be traveling with my wife. Has anyone recent experience visiting SPB as a lesbian couple? If we avoid public displays of affection will we be OK? We are taking a tour for the two days we will be there.