believer33323 Posted October 18, 2013 #26 Share Posted October 18, 2013 Just do what your Heart Says to do. I think you already know the answer. She is lucky to have a friend like you to worry for her so much..:) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
reilly1 Posted October 18, 2013 Author #27 Share Posted October 18, 2013 Whilst it worked out in the end, I would have cancelled if asked to. It could have ended up a lot differently. Not really. The way I looked at it, it would make no difference whether they cancelled last Tuesday or next Tuesday. At least she has a bit of time to talk it over with her partner and make a decision. She may still choose not to go and we can cancel up to the final day. We are in Northern Ireland and as long as any insurance claim is made within 28 days, it will be fine. I did discuss it with the other 6 friends who are joining us and they agreed with my decision to wait a few days. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
reilly1 Posted October 20, 2013 Author #28 Share Posted October 20, 2013 Her partner took me aside after the funeral yesterday and said that they had decided to go on the cruise with us. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
believer33323 Posted October 20, 2013 #29 Share Posted October 20, 2013 Her partner took me aside after the funeral yesterday and said that they had decided to go on the cruise with us. WOW! Just think how depressed they would have been if you would have granted their request from the beginning..:) You're a good friend!:):) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luvmesomeme Posted October 20, 2013 #30 Share Posted October 20, 2013 Your friends asked you to cancel. So cancel. It is not up to you to decide whether or not cruising would be good for them. Do what you've been asked. Do not go back to your friend during this time and explain anything about the cruise; she has other things on her mind that far surpass this. She has the rest of her life to go on another cruise. Trust me when I say she is probably disappointed enough already; she doesn't also need to feel like she needs to explain her decision to you, or put on a brave front and go if she doesn't want to. Please, cancel it as you've been asked to do. I agree! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
drarill Posted October 20, 2013 #31 Share Posted October 20, 2013 Her partner took me aside after the funeral yesterday and said that they had decided to go on the cruise with us. Glad everything worked out for your friend, she is lucky to have you. My condolences to her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iuki Posted October 20, 2013 #32 Share Posted October 20, 2013 Your friends asked you to cancel. So cancel. It is not up to you to decide whether or not cruising would be good for them. Do what you've been asked. Do not go back to your friend during this time and explain anything about the cruise; she has other things on her mind that far surpass this. She has the rest of her life to go on another cruise. Trust me when I say she is probably disappointed enough already; she doesn't also need to feel like she needs to explain her decision to you, or put on a brave front and go if she doesn't want to. Please, cancel it as you've been asked to do. I agree whole-heartedly. She may feel as though you're pressuring her to go - and she doesn't need that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
matj2000 Posted October 20, 2013 #33 Share Posted October 20, 2013 Her partner took me aside after the funeral yesterday and said that they had decided to go on the cruise with us. I wouldn't have cancelled either. If she had cancer then it was probably no big surprise that she died because the MDs can usually put an accurate time frame on it. It's not like there is anything to do 10 after the funeral. They would just be back at work.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iuki Posted October 20, 2013 #34 Share Posted October 20, 2013 Her partner took me aside after the funeral yesterday and said that they had decided to go on the cruise with us. Glad it worked out. Hope y'all have a nice cruise. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
believer33323 Posted October 20, 2013 #35 Share Posted October 20, 2013 I agree whole-heartedly. She may feel as though you're pressuring her to go - and she doesn't need that. OK all worked out now. Leave it at that. This is a forum and we should not and cannot know anything more than the OP has said. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SGH-I747 using Forums mobile app Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
reilly1 Posted October 21, 2013 Author #36 Share Posted October 21, 2013 I agree whole-heartedly. She may feel as though you're pressuring her to go - and she doesn't need that. Actually, since the death, I have not even mentioned the cruise to her at all. It was her partner who discussed it with her and not one other person who is going on the cruise spoke about it in front of her at any time. We all agreed on this. The decision wss made by her and her partner and luckily they are still able to go. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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