Night curfew time for teens?

[travgurl]

When you cruise with teenagers do you set up a time when you want them back in the cabin for the night. We will be traveling with two 17 girls and one 18 year old boy. We are trying to come to some decision concerning a time.

[Wennfred]

LOL, What curfew??? you're looking for a big fight every night :D

 

Teens onboard the ship stay up till the wee hours of the night, they turn into vampires. Its upto the Parent to enforce those rules.

 

At 17 & 18, I would let them stay up if they are good kids, just let them know the rules before hand.

 

 

Good Luck.

 

 

 

Fred

[CruiseCentric]

Do they have a curfew at home? I would use that time as a guide.

[travgurl]

Yes, they are very good kids, ones I can trust. It is just to hear about things that happen sometimes. And we have to get up early for excursions. We will set some guidelines before we go.

[Peto]

17 and 18 is too old to have curfews. Let them make adult decisions.

[ShanteS]

17 and 18 is too old to have curfews. Let them make adult decisions.

 

ITA!! I went on my first cruise when I was 16 and had no curfew. The ship was full of teens anyway and everyone was well behaved. No one got into trouble or did things they weren't supposed to. If they're good kids and you know you can trust them, why give them a curfew? I think a curfew would put a damper on their vacation. Why not just have them check in every so often through out the night?

[kml2000]

My daughter is 14 and she took a friend on our recent cruise. I didn't set a "blanket" curfew, but each night we saw what activities were going on and talked about their plans. If they wanted to go to the late night activity, they had 15 minutes after the end of that activity to be back to the cabin. Some nights it was 11:30, some nights 12:00, and I think one night it was 12:30. In some ways, I let them set their own curfew (or at least they thought they did....:D ). I will say that on days we had early port days, they made the choice to come back to the room a little early.

 

Now, my daughter is obviously younger than your teens. I will, however, say that if they are not out on their own and self supportive, I still have a say. I wouldn't want mine just wondering the ship at all hours of the night. Of course, I haven't had to experience that age yet, and I can't say for sure what I will or won't do. However, at this stage, I would say that they should have a curfew, but be flexible.....

[Wennfred]

The thing is, where are you going to go? Their locked up in a ship with nothing but water around them. Unless they were known Balcony Jumpers or have a history of jumping off ships in the middle of the night, I wouldn't worry about it.

 

 

Fred

[ShanteS]

IA with you Fred. I also think the other poster had a great idea as well. Discuss what their plans are after dinner and have them check in or get back to the cabin in 15 minutes or however long. That seems like a good idea to me too. To the orig. poster, I say go with your gut though and do what you feel is best. I personally wouldn't be happy with a curfew on a cruise ship at 17-18 though especially since I'm a night owl and it gets worse when I go on cruises. Just be flexible with them.

[mosel]

My teens set their own curfew because we got up pretty early every morning so they went to bed on their own. None of mine are real night owls and they know when I say it is time to get up there is no "just a little more time". They like their sleep!! Cindy

[critterfriend]

If they are anything like my boys they will stay up all night long and want to sleep all day *sigh* I would request that on days where there is an excursion the next morning they need to be in their rooms no later than 2am. Explain that this 2am is not a curfew but a request and that by requesting they do this you feel your giving them the ability to make an adult decision to be respectful of their parents and obey.

 

Also explain that if they have attitudes the next morning they will have an early curfew the night prior to the next excursion because this shows you as parents they are not mature enough to make wise decisions about how much sleep they require.

 

I have no problem with my kids staying up late but if their attitude ruins our excursion because they're grouchy from lack of sleep....that I have a problem with.

[river_sand_bar2]

I am hoping that with No computer, No phone and No boyfriends, the girls will be in their cabins by 1:00 am.... we'll see how that goes in 15 days when we sail. Now, the son, who is 20 plans to gamble until his money runs out...so that all depends on if he is winning or loosing.

[dutchiegirl6]

I like the idea of being open and discussing evening plans after dinner. That way they think they are setting up their own schedule, so it doesn't seem like they are being forced to "obey" what you have decided for them. This way they feel that they are making their own choices, but they are also agreeable with you and you know where they are going to be. JMHO

[S.S.Oceanlover]

When you cruise with teenagers do you set up a time when you want them back in the cabin for the night. We will be traveling with two 17 girls and one 18 year old boy. We are trying to come to some decision concerning a time.

 

I let my son out til 2am. I tell him 1am if we have to get up early for a port. He'll be 18 next month.

 

Bill

[dndcruise]

We are taking our 18 year old grand daughter on a cruise in October. I think my wife is more concerned about my curfew than hers. LOL

[bplazo]

I have always given my daughter a curfew even at 18. Alot can happen even on a cruise ship.

[Tweety1961]

We just returned from our cruise with 15 & 16 yr old girls and 16 & 17 yr old boys. Each night they had to let un know what they would be doing. We were 4 families and there were usually a few of us up late. They knew they could find us most of the time outside the casino at the bar or just sitting on the couches. They had to check in by midnight, then if all the adults were going to bed, they had 1 more hour. We too told them if they were crabby or uncooperative the next morning they would have an early curfew the next day. They weren't going to be sleeping the day away. We never had a problem because we set up rules ahead of time. Also, they were to never have anyone else in their room without our permission.

[scapino]

17 and 18 is too old to have curfews. Let them make adult decisions.

 

They are NOT adults yet and there is nothing wrong with being in at a decent hour so that they are awake/alurt the next day to enjoy their family in ports of call

 

Last xmas we were on the Glory and our 15 year old had to be back by 12; 1 the final night. We're on the Conquest next month and 12 still seems appropriate.

[RAVI360]

LOL, What curfew??? you're looking for a big fight every night :D

 

Teens onboard the ship stay up till the wee hours of the night, they turn into vampires. Its upto the Parent to enforce those rules.

 

HAHAAaaaaaa....hahahahhaaaaaaaa:D

OMG.....that is soooooo true

[Bigdasher]

My boy didn't have a curfew imposed on him. I mean, didI really want to be a) staying awake til 1 or 2 in the morning waiting for him to knock or phone telling me "mum I'm back"....or b) woken up.

Did I want to be sick with worry if he was late, did I want to have to tell him off? No, I was on holiday, we were all on holiday.

 

So I trusted him and his terribly sensible sister ( who was always in bed at 10pm with a plate of cakes from the buffet...) to act maturely. Which I am glad to say they did, and were a credit to me.

 

BigD

[coachsoftball]

We use the same system on board that we do at home, curfew is based on the activity. They have 30 minutes from the end of the activity to be back. If they are not doing a planned activity, just hanging out, they have a specific time to be back, on board it was 12 for my 13 yr old DD and 1 for my 15 yr old DS. At home she has 11 and he has 12. This works well for us and is what my parent did many eons ago when I was a teenager and worked well then too.

[caribbean dreams]

I am hoping that with No computer, No phone and No boyfriends, the girls will be in their cabins by 1:00 am.... .

 

:eek: No Boys, Do you have any idea how many boys they are going to meet on the cruise?

Trust me, i know, i have girls.

At 16 & 17 Their curfew was when i go to the cabin for the night, so do they.

I have seen what goes on, on the ships in the middle of the night with unsupervised teens!

 

 

I don't go to the cabin early, it's always way after midnight.

 

After they were over 18, they had no curfew but i would still keep an eye on them just because everytime i would see them, i would remind then that we had to get up early for shore excursions.

[Chigirlcruzin]

They are NOT adults yet and there is nothing wrong with being in at a decent hour so that they are awake/alurt the next day to enjoy their family in ports of call

 

 

Actually, the 18 year old IS an adult. Heck, when I was 18 I went on my first cruise without my parents. Only had to be 18 back in those days! I'm of the school of thought that it depends on the kid, and I lean more towards not having a curfew. I NEVER had a curfew growing up. I told my parents when I'd be home, and if I was going to be later, I'd just call. My parents trusted me. As a result, I never felt the need to rebel. I have friends that were overprotective with them, and even now at 28-30, they are still out of control "because they can."

 

I do agree that midnight is a reasonable curfew for a 14-15 year old.

[Ms. Fun Bunch]

I think they should have a curfew. I am taking my godsons on a cruise this year. They are 18 and 19 and I am giving them a curfew of 1:00 am. Too many things can go on on the ship. I have seen groups of teens in the hot tub at all hours doing all kinds of things. So yes give your teens a curfew.

[Cruisetrio]

For us and our 15 DD (who has gone on every cruise with us)..if we have no early port of call, curfew is 1-2am. After the first night, I usually ask her more or less what her "new friends" curfiew is and try to get a sense from there.

 

The last night of almost every cruise, her and some of her new friends stayed up all night to watch the sun rise. We had to catch a plane anyhow, so she slept on the plane. Those are fun memories for her....