Warning: This Thread Contains Clevage

[Gingee]

How about a sparkly cami to go underneath the top of the dress?

[cookingchick]

I have 3 words for your cleavage...FAB-U-LOUS. You go girl! I think you look gorgeous in that dress.

 

But I do understand how you feel...I felt very self conscious about my boobs before I had a breast reduction. If you're seriously looking for a way to adjust the cleavage level, I would suggest taking out the beige underlayer and wear some kind of camisole that is a bit higher...perhaps something lacy that would still be dressy and delicate but help you feel a little less exposed.

 

Otherwise, I say go with it...the people who are staring are either incredibly jealous or just appreciative...LOL.

[jp2001]

Otherwise, I say go with it...the people who are staring are either incredibly jealous or just appreciative...LOL.

 

OK, here is a confession…. I’m a girl and I probably look more to a nice cleavage than DBF does :O

I guess it’s because he has seen more boobs than I did see (I wear 32 AA, never have known what boobs look like :D)

Sorry, I don’t mean to offend anyone when I do that, I guess I’m just impressed and I have to look (I don’t stare for a long time but I have sometimes realized I was looking at someone else boobs and switch to somewhere else as soon as I realized but I know I shouldn’t have done that, it’s unconscious…).

[cookingchick]

OK, here is a confession…. I’m a girl and I probably look more to a nice cleavage than DBF does :O

I guess it’s because he has seen more boobs than I did see (I wear 32 AA, never have known what boobs look like :D)

Sorry, I don’t mean to offend anyone when I do that, I guess I’m just impressed and I have to look (I don’t stare for a long time but I have sometimes realized I was looking at someone else boobs and switch to somewhere else as soon as I realized but I know I shouldn’t have done that, it’s unconscious…).

 

:D LOLOLOL.

[karen sharpe]

Tres drole my neighbour to the east. It really is all about..."in the eye of the beholder" !:rolleyes:

[CruisenFlamingo]

I think you look fantastic. Yes you have clevage, but I don't think it looks trashy at all. I say go for it and rock that dress. :D

[flamingo3]

Can't really help you with the dress or "undergarments" -- I have very little chest, and no cleavage. Just want you to know that I think you are very pretty. Don't sell yourself short! :)

 

These women on the boards are very knowledgeable. Listen to them.

 

Susan

[Summers]

This one seems like it covers more and I think it comes in black:

 

 

And then this one seems like it might provide a little more coverage without quite as much push up

 

 

http://www.fredericks.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=Holiday2002&category%5Fname=Corsets-Curve&product%5Fid=50640

 

Both are from Fredericks

[karen sharpe]

A friend of mine buys her custom fit bras at Intimacy the Bra Fit Specialists and she loves them. There is a web site and a chain of stores across North America.(2 in Georgia).

www.myintimacy.com/findastore.html

Phipps Plaza

3500 Peachtree Road NE

Atlanta, GA

30076

[lovesublime]

May I also make a recommendation? I recently discovered www.herroom.com

 

They are based in Dallas and offer a huge selection of extremely well made bras. I've ordered 6 or 7 bras in the past couple of months and I'm impressed. The brands I recommend for your figure are Freya and Fayreform. I especially love Freya-they prove that beautiful bras for full chests can be supportive and beautiful.

[shebring02lx]

Wow! I leave to go to work for 8 hours and I come home amazed!

Thank you to everyone who took the time out to reply to this board.

 

Honestly!

 

About the dress:

It is a nudeish gold and blk dress (Nude silk with blk lace overlay) Sorry I dont have a full length photo. Its a beautiful dress ... I love it. I got it at Macys on sale!

The camisole itsself is the nude part b/t the two lace shoulders - the black shawl is drapped and knotted over my shoulders and in front of me ....

 

I didnt feel bad wearing it when I was walking around - its just the people who sit across from me at dinner [no comments were made] but I felt like the guy sitting across from me at the table was VERY uncomfortable. Thats not the type of environment that I would like to foster.

 

I might have to try the black camisole idea - I also like the idea of having a nude piece of fabric placed in the dress itself. It would probably make me feel 100% better.

 

I really appreciate everyones advice. I wish I had a smaller chest! Im so jealous of girls w/ smaller chests ... they get to wear the cuter shirts and cuter swim wear!!!

 

I complain about my chest but my fiance loves them :rolleyes: What to do? :)

[wanasail]

I think everyone has given you good advice. I just wanted to tell you that I really enjoyed your slide show. Looks like you had fun. I love your formal hair do & your formal black dress. You looked fab. Have a great cruise this time too.

[raytownlady]

I am in the same boat as you are, so I can understand where you're coming during our last cruise I sat across the dinner table from a man and it may have been my imagination but I swear he never took his eyes of my chest during dinner. It made me so uncomfortable, DH and I only ate in the dining room 3 nights out of 7.

[dogsrule]

I think you are very pretty and have gorgeous skin to boot. I also have to dreaded big boob issue and have found that halter type evening dresses are more flattering. You can find a lot of good deals on them at dillards, macys, etc... Sometimes, I have to try on about ten or twelve dresses because of the boob issue. Maybe just take the time to try different styles and see whats most flattering to your body. Also, as mentioned previously, a good minimizer is a must. Not victorias secret but even olga makes affordable minimizers as well as the wonderful wacoals (which are more expensive) I agree with you, I don't want the attention going to my chest, as its important to enhance your assets and minimize your problem areas. And I do indeed consider the oversized chest a problem area for me.

 

Having said that, I think that you should check out the sales going on now and find something that makes you feel GREAT and less self conscious. Perhaps save the dress for just you and your fiances private time together:D

[Jane110]

OK, here is a confession…. I’m a girl and I probably look more to a nice cleavage than DBF does :O

I guess it’s because he has seen more boobs than I did see (I wear 32 AA, never have known what boobs look like :D)

Sorry, I don’t mean to offend anyone when I do that, I guess I’m just impressed and I have to look (I don’t stare for a long time but I have sometimes realized I was looking at someone else boobs and switch to somewhere else as soon as I realized but I know I shouldn’t have done that, it’s unconscious…).

 

I don't think anyone needs to apologize for looking at cleavage. (as long as they don't stare or leer) The very nature of how the fabric holds up the breasts so that they overflow over the top of the dress is simply something that causes anyones eye to look. Women who wear tops that give them cleavage know exactly how it looks and knows it brings attention to them. So when I see cleavage, I openly look - she's not hiding anything, so why should I pretend it's not there? And if I'm wearing a top that shows cleavage, I don't have any qualms about anyone looking at it. If I didn't want anyone to look at my feet, I shouldn't paint my toes red and wear sandals!

[luckyprincess]

OK, here is a confession…. I’m a girl and I probably look more to a nice cleavage than DBF does :O

I guess it’s because he has seen more boobs than I did see (I wear 32 AA, never have known what boobs look like :D)

Sorry, I don’t mean to offend anyone when I do that, I guess I’m just impressed and I have to look (I don’t stare for a long time but I have sometimes realized I was looking at someone else boobs and switch to somewhere else as soon as I realized but I know I shouldn’t have done that, it’s unconscious…).

LOL! I do this too! I've been known to whisper to my boyfriend "omg! That girl has great boobs!". Thats usually when he says I'm the 'coolest girlfriend ever'!:p But really, I appreciate beauty in life and I always admire (not leer) at men and women. Usually with women I'm thinking, hmmmm....that dress would look good on me, too, or, how does she get her hair so shiny?. You know, its human nature to look at others. Its when people comment or their stare lingers that it gets bad....

[JMS920]

I also think you look beautiful. But I understand, you felt uncomfortable with the guy staring at you. Suggestion, if you had a long line(torsolette / brasselette) bra on with stays in it, that also pushes your "assets" up when you sit down. I sell these and I've worn them, trust me, I know! That could be why the man across the table couldnt' take his eyes off you. A couple of suggestions. First be sure the cup size is big enough for you (if it's too small it will push you up and out more causing the "extra boob", then try putting the bra on a little lower, by pulling the "body" of the bra down on your body a bit before hooking it.

 

Another suggestion, I feel the nude cami gives the illusion of skin, actually looking like you have more flesh showing than you really do. Take the dress shopping with you, if you need to shop for bras, do it and look for a black cami you might consider trying to see how a solid black looks under it or a black lace (which you could even double up wearing the nude one you have under the lace, like the dress). Think about not tying the shawl under your "girls" which is drawing more attention to your girls and covering the beautiful dress. Just wear it as a shawl over your shoulders.

 

Remember, you look beautiful! Let us know how you make out.

JoAnn

[soozles]

Always nice to meet another woman who was "blessed". I am also self concious about showing too much cleavage, and it seems like it's impossible not to. I also have a small frame besides my boobs, so all people see are boobs that enter a room ten minutes before the rest of me.

 

Wacoal makes some really great, supportive bras for women with larger chests, and if you get a cute lacey cami, it would look awesome. Just a hint when looking for lacy camis, I've found nicer ones in the lingerie department. For some reason, I can never find them in the regular clothes, but go to lingerie, and there are tons (usually with a matching thong).

[Silvery Seas Cruiser]

Try Lane Bryant. They have an excellent selection of bras and lingerie for the well endowed and their bras are quite pretty. In regular department stores (such as Penney, Macy's, Sears, etc) it is hard to find good-looking "minimizer' bras and DDs often look more like infantry bullet proof vests than pretty, sexy bras offered to the more diminuitive of our sisterhood.

 

Now to an opinion--just mine. You do express that your gown made you feel self conscious when folks, epsecially men gave you "that" stare. I'm at the stage of my life in which I no longer wear anything that makes me feel self conscious or uncomfortable, be it an attention-grabbing color, print or cut of neckline or length or whatever. I guess I've concluded that if I am occupied with what I am wearing to the extent that I can't enjoy myself or feel natural or feel that I am attracting attention I don't seek, then I don't want to wear such a garment, no matter how gorgeous it is.

 

And that same garment may be fine on someone else. They have the personality to wear it. I envy them, but I have talked myself into outfits too many times that I wore only once because something about it just didn't suit me. If you do truly feel self-conscious about that gown, all the shawls and special bras and contraptions will not change that one fact.

 

It is only one gown. There are thousands of others. Find a gown that you can wear, show off your gorgeous complexion and hair and forget about the neckline that bothered you enough to come here for advice. (But I am a notoroious coward. Maybe this opinion is totally wrong for you. Just take it for what it is worth--just one person's opinion.)

[cookingchick]

I really appreciate everyones advice. I wish I had a smaller chest! Im so jealous of girls w/ smaller chests ... they get to wear the cuter shirts and cuter swim wear!!!

 

I complain about my chest but my fiance loves them :rolleyes: What to do? :)

 

I was the same way until I decided that I'd had enough of the boob leering, dented shoulders, and backaches and got a reduction (insurance paid for it). My husband loved the big boobs but is equally thrilled with the more manageable 38C that we compromised on (I wanted to go smaller but wanted him to be happy too). It was, quite honestly, the best thing I've ever done for myself. I'm more physically fit now because I have a much broader range of aerobic activities that I can participate in than when the girls were bigger.

 

Nevertheless, I still say you look fabulous in the dress...wear it and stand tall.

[livelifejo]

you look lovley alot like my oldest daughter she would say"wear it" and so would I. Wish I had a sexy body. If you are too uncomfortable a wrap would be the clincher, then you have the option to keep it on or not as evening goes on.

 

have a great trip.

 

livelife

[sassyj38]

I think you look great!

[strawberrypatch81]

I think you look gorgeous and I agree with the other posters that you look stunning in that dress. I must admit I am one that would accidently stare but only because I wish I had a cleavage like that! :D Most girls would love cleavage like yours. Wear your dress with confidence and do what makes you feel confident and comfortable. If others stare forget them, they are jelouse! Hope you have a great cruise and I also enjoyed your photo slideshow. :)

[wanasail]

I think it was Jane110 that showed us a little bit of a faux cami, I can't remember what it was called, but it was a little triangle of lace that attached to your bra straps & the front of your bra & gave the illusion of a cami without the bulk of a cami. They were a pretty practical little thing. Someone must remember which thread this was on. I for the life of me can't find it. Maybe Jane could help. I think one of them in black might be a good idea.

[Gathina]

How does the rest of the dress fit? I am no expert but if the rest of the dress doesn't fit, is it pushing your breasts up into a weird place maybe?

 

It is a nice dress. But like everyone else said, you need to wear it with confidence. Also, I think the contrast between the black and cream is too stark and that would make you stand out in a crowd. If you're going to wear a dress that shows cleavage, you can't expect people to not look. Gawking is not nice, but that's the reality, some people do and you can't escape that.

 

Just my two cents. What's your husband think? It'd be interesting to get a man's opinion. Women always defend each other :)