How often do you make

[above sea level cruiser]

amends during your cruise? We always argue about where to go, where to eat the first few days. There is always way to much to see and do - anyone else had this problem?:D

[CarolinaGirl]

If I travel with DH, I'm having to make amends every day of the trip. He isn't happy on a cruise ... therefore I leave him home and cruise with friends, and I rarely have to make amends!

[TEXASMUNK]

We used to early on when we first started cruising. Then we got to the point where we were about 90% in tune on what to do, when to do it, etc.

The other 10% normally revolved around the casino! We made a pact! I get casino time. All winnings go towards jewelry for Suzan. I have been very lucky in the casino. Suzan has lots of jewelry. Suzan is happy. Therefore, I am happy!

[BobBeaSea]

So far, so good - no need to make amends. We both seem to be on the same page :). My first wife was much more of a challenge, I couldn't say or do anything right. :D

[JanineM]

We like to cruise because we rarely have to made amends ... at least compared to land-based vacations!

 

If we're on land, we're always arguing about:

• what hotel to stay in
  
• what type of room to have
  
• when to go to dinner
  
• where to have dinner
  
• how to get to the restaurant
  
• whether we need a reservation
  
• who got us lost on the way to the restaurant
  
• etc., etc., etc.

The only times we have a difference of opinion are when I want to shop or go to the casino and he doesn't. So when he has a nap, I do my shopping and gambling. We're both happy!

[Fighterone]

No need for amends, when we are not together, we have a talkie walkie to keep in touch. The secret is to always have it on and have lots of channels on it so we don't bug anyone else.

Laid back DH likes to eat where I like to eat for dinner that's the one time we are always together. He is great about ports and we even laugh about our "must have" traditional spats outside the Chedraui in CZM. Of course, not everyone has 34 years of marriage behind them so that may have something to do with it all too!

[cruzincurt]

Never a problem as I travel with "she who must be obeyed". I play blackjack and craps, she plays let it ride and slots.

[LAKaye]

on an RCI cruise, we have it down to a science, and there is now very little conflict over what to do: Simply put--we do what he wants to do, but at least I get to "go out to dinner" seven or more days in a row!!! :D

 

Leslie

[ORANGEinINDY]

No amends to make, I am so lucky to have my bride of 28 years. (She does what ever I tell her:eek: :D :D) ONLY KIDDING FOLKS. She and I are happy just to be together and enjoy all the same things on our cruises. Formal night, Breakfast and Lunch in the dining room, shows... no bingo or art show SHE'S THE BEST.

Above Sea Level Cruiser... maybe just blow your whistle!!!:rolleyes: :eek:

[basketsuze]

....we have to make amends PRE-cruise! For some reason, we get into an argument when we're leaving to head to the port! Either we're late, we're early, something went awry, we got lost, and so on. One time we were boarding our dogs, and I wanted to drop them off the night before we left. DH didn't want to, so on the morning of departure, we drove to the Kennel, in a downpour of rain, behind a school bus, and when we got to the Kennel, it didn't open for another HOUR! I took a deep breath, and calmly said to DH, "We're not doing it this way again." No arguments ensued, which was a FIRST for us!

 

Anyone else have a regularly scheduled pre-cruise argument? Once we're on the ship, then all is forgiven and forgotten!

 

Suze!

[shipknotshore]

No amends to make .... happy just to be together and enjoy all the same things on our cruises.

 

Same here.....28 years this year and are so fortunate that we both love to go cruising.

[marle7]

Rarely. We are usually in sync on a cruise, or we agree to do different things. Hubby dives, and I lie by the pool etc. We are coming up to one of "those" though. We are approaching our 10 anniversary. Naturally, I want to do a "special" cruise. Hubby is talking about a land vacation. :( Not.

[missou]

We do have to make some pre-cruise amends. According to DH I'm always late. Of course, I have to finish the last minute things that have to be done before leaving the house. If I could get some help, I'd be in the car a lot faster.

I have a serious problem in my knee and I need to rest often and he respects that. I love to play Blackjack and he lets me go to the Casino without any problem and I let him do his things as he pleases. It is a good arrangement.

[stompy]

My wife and I have only been married 3 years but we've been together 10. At this point in our lives we've come to realize that we AREN'T joined at the hip. We CAN go do things on our own and we don't have to be together 24 hours every day.

 

Now, that being said, I love her to pieces and hang around her most of the cruise like a puppydog...

 

About the only time we differ is that she likes to play the slots and doesn't care if she's winning or not. Me, I play roulette with $100/day and that's my limit. Last cruise she was down a lotta quarters and I actually came home with more than I started with (well ok, all the winnings went to the 857 8X10's that we HAD to buy and coffee mugs but you get the idea...)

 

Mostly I hang out in the ship's common areas when she does her spa treatments or works out in the gym.

 

One bit of advice we got years ago was to bring 2 high-lighters and each of you highlight the cruise compass with stuff you want to do the next day. Where both colors are there-that's the activity that takes priority.

 

When in doubt just say YES DEAR and sign the checks

[mediator]

We never have to make amends. I think that is why we liked cruising so much. It allowed us to "respect" what each of us wanted to do or did not. That included our child. I can think of all the things I was dragged to as a child... I hated family vacatios. Not our son.

 

We always discuss "I would like to do or see this today" and compare compare with the other. If necessary, we would split three different ways, "regroup" and talk about each others adventures at dinner. I still have a picture of my husband with some woman at Dunn's River Falls, taken by whom I don't know. They thought they were a couple. I think I was laying by the pool that day, thinking, I don't have a death wish today!!! So, 20+ cruises later and 35 years of marriage, not much has changed except that we are EMPTYNESTERS!!!!!!

[ORANGEinINDY]

I was wondering this evening if more 'amends' need to be made on other cruise lines...say NCL "free style".. someone's gotta say when and where to eat.

[ClipperMiami]

amends during your cruise? We always argue about where to go, where to eat the first few days. There is always way to much to see and do - anyone else had this problem?:D

You mean making amends or, ahem, making "amends" wink, wink, nudge, nudge? :-)