I am a doctor. While I am not an OBGYN, I was trained by a big time OBGYN who writes all the guidelines that we follow. He is a part of the World Health Organization and was on the panel that deemed the COVID vaccine ok to use in pregnant patients.
The American College of Obstetrics and Genecology says that pregnant patients should not drink.
Alcohol and Pregnancy | ACOG
We can detox pregnant patients.
I cannot tell you the the number of patients who "misremember" my recommendations, even when it is written in their chart and I print it out for them and hand it to them.
No judgement; alcoholism is a disease. People will do anything to feed their addiction. I have personally delivered many babies (50+ at least) from mothers who were addicted to alcohol, meth, crack, etc.