Crematory Remains at Sea-The Andrew

[daniella1279]

I never had the opportunity to sail/meet you and Andrew, but I feel as though I know you both through your humorous reviews. I am so very sorry for your loss. Please take care of yourself and be strong.

 

 

 

Nicely said!

 

 

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[SavvySarah]

I know nothing about this in a helpful manner, but... condolences. Those who have read your reviews have truly gotten to know and love both of you. This hurts to hear!!!

 

<3 <3 <3

[missdebi]

So sorry to hear this. My prayers are with you. Our family has instructions to bury us off of a cruise ship, then I will be on my eternal cruise!

[SavvySarah]

This has weighed so heavy on my mind today. I hope you find peace and comfort, Nancy. I will be on the Fantasy in October and I'd love to have a drink in honor of The Andrew. Please, when you have a minute, let us know his favorite. There were always so many wonderful choices in the pictures. Also, you guys had strangely been on my mind that very day and I can kind of prove it... I mentioned the two of you in post #67 on this thread:

 

http://boards.cruisecritic.com/showthread.php?p=42070173#post42070173

 

My post was at 1:51 pm on March 16th and after I made the comment on your reviews I was wondering where you were because I hadn't seen you post in a little while.

 

Again, condolences, I don't expect answers immediately (favorite drink), in due time, Fancy Nancy.

 

Until then prayers of peace and comfort your way...

[Stevo24]

Sorry to hear this Nancy. Please know you're in our thoughts as you go through this difficult time.

[All4fun&fun4all]

“I know for certain that we never lose the people we love, even to death. They continue to participate in every act, thought and decision we make. Their love leaves an indelible imprint in our memories. We find comfort in knowing that our lives have been enriched by having shared their love.”

 

-Leo Buscaglia

 

That was beautiful and something I needed to hear.

[All4fun&fun4all]

This has weighed so heavy on my mind today. I hope you find peace and comfort, Nancy. I will be on the Fantasy in October and I'd love to have a drink in honor of The Andrew. Please, when you have a minute, let us know his favorite. There were always so many wonderful choices in the pictures. Also, you guys had strangely been on my mind that very day and I can kind of prove it... I mentioned the two of you in post #67 on this thread:

 

http://boards.cruisecritic.com/showthread.php?p=42070173#post42070173

 

My post was at 1:51 pm on March 16th and after I made the comment on your reviews I was wondering where you were because I hadn't seen you post in a little while.

 

Again, condolences, I don't expect answers immediately (favorite drink), in due time, Fancy Nancy.

 

Until then prayers of peace and comfort your way...

 

His favorite thing to order at the bar was a bucket of beer. Usually those huge Foster's oil can beers. He always said it was a better value and higher alcohol content. He also loved shots of rum mixed with that guava passionfruit OJ from the morning lido buffet. Thank you for your kind words. He was irreplaceable.

[wrigley80]

His favorite thing to order at the bar was a bucket of beer. Usually those huge Foster's oil can beers. He always said it was a better value and higher alcohol content. He also loved shots of rum mixed with that guava passionfruit OJ from the morning lido buffet. Thank you for your kind words. He was irreplaceable.

 

Nancy....I am so sorry to hear of The Andrew's passing. I love your idea of spreading some of his ashes at sea. That is a beautiful tribute to a man who enjoyed cruising as much as The Andrew.

I am praying for you during this difficult time

[tango55]

So sorry to hear this - I have just discovered your reviews and you looked like our kind of people. My hubby too loves his buckets of beer! I am in the middle of reading your last review - we would have loved to cruise with you.

 

I know this may sound morbid but when my brother passed away several years ago, we kept his ashes (not in an urn just a box that they gave us). He had only been on one cruise and loved it so much. He always wanted to travel more but just never got the chance.

 

I take little film canisters of him on every trip we take and I have a little ceremony by myself and spread that little bit of him on a beach somewhere that he would have loved. This way I feel he is getting to do the travelling he never could. Since his death he has been on 12 cruises and visited many other different places he would have loved.

 

May your memories give you peace.

 

Terry

[nlktx49]

What a shock! I haven't been on Cruise Critic in a while, then to see that The Andrew has passed away - this is so sad. I truly enjoyed your reviews, especially the antics of The Andrew. I am so very sorry for your great loss.

[buglver066]

My Mom also recently passed away and she loved cruising- not only are we looking into doing a ceremony on our next trip- we also are collecting (a very little bit) of sand from every beach we go to (Outer Banks as well) to add to her burial plot---makes us feel like part of her was with us :).

 

So sorry for your loss- I loved reading your reviews- you guys were an amazing couple.

[rtw68]

Nancy,

 

I can't express enough how sorry I am for the passing of The Andrew. We never had a chance to cruise with you both but your reviews always gave us a chance to be part of the fun.

 

I know that The Andrew would have a big smile on his face knowing that he will always have part of himself at sea and from the ship that you both made some great memories on.

 

Take care and you will definitely be in our prayers.

[Houst]

So Sorry to Read of The Andrews passing. From your writings he seemed like someone you would want to get to know.

[grumpyjr88]

I am so sorry for your loss. I think The Andrew would love that you keep his memory alive with more cruises.

 

 

So sorry to hear this - I have just discovered your reviews and you looked like our kind of people. My hubby too loves his buckets of beer! I am in the middle of reading your last review - we would have loved to cruise with you.

 

I know this may sound morbid but when my brother passed away several years ago, we kept his ashes (not in an urn just a box that they gave us). He had only been on one cruise and loved it so much. He always wanted to travel more but just never got the chance.

 

I take little film canisters of him on every trip we take and I have a little ceremony by myself and spread that little bit of him on a beach somewhere that he would have loved. This way I feel he is getting to do the travelling he never could. Since his death he has been on 12 cruises and visited many other different places he would have loved.

 

May your memories give you peace.

 

Terry

 

What a beautiful tribute. I am going to request that my family do the same for me.

 

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[browneyedgirlnb]

My deepest sympathy to you & yours. I think this is a beautiful thing you're doing.

Sincerely,

Rosie from CT

 

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[mousey]

I'am so terribly sorry for your loss and also think that what you're doing is a beautiful thing. It's what I want for myself.

 

My youngest of two brothers passed away very suddenly just two years ago this coming Monday. We were not able to do a cruise because his kids (young adults) could not all afford to take one. But we did the next best thing for our loved one. My brother and I, and his youngest son...his other two sons just couldn't deal with the loss at the time and neither could our parents who are in their mid and late 80s...took his ashes, which we had the funeral home put into an enviornmentally-approved paper box and put them into the Gulf of Mexico behind his beloved vacation condo. I recited the 24th Pslam as it was my brother's favorite and my nephew dove into the water and released the box. It started to disinigrate almost immediately. We had a group hug, shed many tears, and left knowing that our much- loved father, son, brother, friend had become one with nature. For us, this was the right thing to do and it gave us all great peace as when we think of him, we think of him as part of the flow of the water that he loved to swim in so much and that gave him so much pleasure.

 

I have read on these boards about people who have had loved ones buried at sea on Carnival cruises and each and everyone of them had nothing but good things to say about how they were treated and how things were handled by the staff. I believe you will ge in good hands.

 

May your beloved The Andrew rest in peace.

Edited March 29, 2014 by mousey

[momof4boys]

So sorry to hear this - I have just discovered your reviews and you looked like our kind of people. My hubby too loves his buckets of beer! I am in the middle of reading your last review - we would have loved to cruise with you.

 

I know this may sound morbid but when my brother passed away several years ago, we kept his ashes (not in an urn just a box that they gave us). He had only been on one cruise and loved it so much. He always wanted to travel more but just never got the chance.

 

I take little film canisters of him on every trip we take and I have a little ceremony by myself and spread that little bit of him on a beach somewhere that he would have loved. This way I feel he is getting to do the travelling he never could. Since his death he has been on 12 cruises and visited many other different places he would have loved.

 

May your memories give you peace.

 

Terry

 

 

Terry,

 

This is such a lovely idea to honor your brother.

 

Nancy......we are thinking of you this weekend. Prayers for peace for you.

[watermelonqueen99]

I am so sorry for your loss.

[tropicaledrink]

Nancy,

 

We've never met, and I don't even know if I have commented on any of your reviews, but I have read every single one of them. My heart breaks for you and I can't imagine a better place for the Andrew than at sea.

 

Sending lots of love your way from your CC family.

[K8S]

So very sorry for your loss...I feel like I know a little bit about him through your reviews. Tears are running down my face for a man I never met. Your story telling ability and allowing us in...impacted us all. Thank you for sharing. What a great tribute.

[SavvySarah]

Hope you are doing alright, Nancy!! My thoughts have been with you and your family!

[CruiseCrazyCouple0611]

Hey Nancy, like so many others I feel like we've come to know you and the Andrew and have followed your cruise experiences, laughed at The Andrew's hilarious antics, and been touched by your stories of first the fire and now Andrew's passing. I cant think of a better way to honor Andrew than to take him back to the place that he loved the most. Every time we pass Manny's we will think of him as we know you both liked it and when we cruise on Carnival Victory in September, we will think of you. Thank goodness you created these wonderful virtual memories of your times together. Sail on Andrew, sail on!

[sjn911]

Just read this thread...hoping you are doing ok dear Nancy. My friend who lost a very special friend and business partner and they were cruise sales people, did a burial at sea with the San Diego coast guard, with his ashes and his mother and a few special friends. Then His mother and she kept some ashes..so I just wanted to validate this option you mentioned many do. Your comments to me about mom and how I was and am pretty heartbroken still...meant so much. So did that Leo Buscaglia quote. I truly know my mom is with me in ways I just won't get until I get there...i even know some things have healed in those last days and more in prayer time..meditation etc. with her....long term issues and deep mutual love remains...as well as protection..

 

Sometimes I hear her say..Sarah..when it is time to give something attention..it is in my mind and audible to me..

 

I would not be surprised that Andrew is with you in a way we can't understand often...praying for your goodbye at sea...and your continued healing..you are a lovely soul and The Andrew is too...to all we have loved...here and in the beyond we give love and thanks..we are never forgotten...

 

All my love, sarah

 

 

I have learned....

About anything that people "who get it" can share from a loving heart helps beyond anything you/they can possibly know..it is the remembering and being with someone in such tender feelings in writing, thought, prayers or physically. We do not allow for grief or sad very well..but we are getting better as a society, we celebrated my mom's birthday at church..sunday after Easter..in a prayer..twas beautiful..2 years 8/2/14.....xxxxoooSarah

Edited May 8, 2014 by sjn911

[momof4boys]

Just thinking of you Nancy. We booked a cruise ....last minute for us.....and as I am reading through CC....just had to drop you a line. Hope you are finding comfort and peace.

[mamieof3]

First of all, my sincere condolences for your loss. My heart aches for you.

 

My father passed away in Feb. 2013, and we had discussed before his death what he wanted, and his wish was to be cremated and his ashes disposed of at sea. So, that's what we did on board the Magic this past November. I will say that, without a doubt, we (the family) are very pleased with what we did. Yes, it was extremely hard on all of us, but we are at peace knowing we did what my dad wanted.

 

In my case, I had contacted John Heald a few weeks ahead of time, and he was very accomadating. He asked me to remind him via facebook about a week before we left, and I did. As soon as I got on board and could, I went to Guest Services to let them know I was on board, and they already knew all of the details about it...Mr. Heald had let them know ahead of time.

 

I posted a LONG note about the experience on my facebook page, but rather than post it here, if you'd like to read what I had to say about the experience, send me an email and I'll give you the link to it - jamesloyd @ gmail . com

 

In short, Carnival was very gracious in helping us. They allowed us to do what we wanted at the time we wanted - yes, everything has to be approved ahead of time by the Environmental Officer, but it wasn't a problem for us. At the appointed time, we met someone from Guest Services, the Environmental Officer and security, and were escored to the back of the ship on Deck 1, to a crew only area. They allowed us to spend as much time back there as we needed. I had arranged ahead of time to have another guest sing "Amazing Grace", and I bought a dozen roses to throw into the sea. I had also brought 55 sand dollars - one for each year my father and mother were married - and my mother was allowed to throw them into the sea also. After we did what we wanted to do, we were then escorted back to the public area the ship.

 

The next day, a letter was delivered to our cabin, giving the GPS coordinates/date/time of when the service was performed. It was very nice to know exactly where we left my dad.

 

I know this is going to be difficult for you, but hopefully in the end you will treasure the moment as much as I do. I have absolutely NO regrets about what we did for my dad.

 

My thoughts and prayers are with you, and if you have any questions that you don't want to discuss publicly, you are free to email me if you want to. jamesloyd @ gmail . com

 

 

James

Dear James, thank you for sharing your experience. It brought tears to my eyes - very heartfelt and loving. I can only think an experience like this will be very comforting and bring much peace to All4Fun. Thanks again.