Need help to convince DH to get a tux!

[Ontario Traveller]

I'd like to convince DH to get a tux. We cruise enough that he would get enough wear out of it, over the years. I like the very formal look. Can you help me with some convincing arguments?

[LARGIN]

Tell hubby that a man that wears a tux during dinner has way more fun after... ;):D;)

[chrysalis]

I'd like to convince DH to get a tux. We cruise enough that he would get enough wear out of it, over the years. I like the very formal look. Can you help me with some convincing arguments?

 

I am sure you can be creative on your own in your convincing suggestions....

[tvaud]

Put on a good Cary Grant movie and watch it with him. Gush about how sexy men in tuxedoes look...and sigh as convincingly as you can.;)

Or.....try the opposite approach and tell him you're not sure if he should wear one, because he will look so sexy that all of the women on the ship will want him.:D

[Ephraim]

Get him a job as a maitre d' at a fancy hotel. Then he will at least have a use for it afterwards.... (running and ducking)

[Blamar]

Speaking as the DH, I agree with those who say romantic adventures definately improve when wearing a tux. Of course, speaking as a big overweight guy, I would say that romantic adventures decline when I wear a speedo. But every guy looks great in a well fitted tuxedo.

 

But my real reason for having is a tux, is that because I already have a tux and cruises are really the only time I get to wear it, it stands to reason that we have to go on more cruises to ensure that the having of a tux, pays for itself.

[PescadoAmarillo]

But every guy looks great in a well fitted tuxedo.

Couldn't agree more.

[RickSue]

Speaking as the DH, I agree with those who say romantic adventures definately improve when wearing a tux. Of course, speaking as a big overweight guy, I would say that romantic adventures decline when I wear a speedo. But every guy looks great in a well fitted tuxedo.

 

 

ROFL - you are too funny! Being married to a "larger guy" myself I can honestly say that a tux would be sexy while a speedo.......... Hmmmmmmm maybe not.:D

[piper28]

I'd like to convince DH to get a tux. We cruise enough that he would get enough wear out of it, over the years. I like the very formal look. Can you help me with some convincing arguments?

 

I have to side with the DH on this one. Sorry, tuxes are evil devices that should be banished from the planet. A wife trying to force one on a husband sounds like grounds for divorce to me :).

[Fuzzyape]

As a DH who doesn't mind the tux, let me add this. I don't take my wife out that much (I know bad, DH), but when we go on the cruise I make sure I'm dressed to the nines for formal night. I know she enjoys it.

 

If you're DH is a logical individual you can always show him saving over time. If you have tux already you can save 80 - 100 bucks (maybe more I haven't had to rent in the last 5 years) per year that you don't need to rent one.

 

Personally, I think the lady in my life is worth wearing a tux for a few hours a day for a couple days in a week once a year (I always hope that I'll have reason to wear one more often, cuz it would mean I'm cruising more.) After all, I listen to bosses tell me what to do for 8 hours a day or more, and the fringe benefits aren't all that great ;)

 

Good luck to you.

[Toto2Kansas]

There are men that look terrific in a tux, but I have seen far more that should have just kept walking past the store. I see so many men that seem to look like they were forced to dress up more than they would like to, and they look and act very uncomfortable.

 

I agree, I love to see a man in a tux, if he wears it well, but some, no way, they should never wear one.

 

If they are built like Cary Grant and are at ease wearing a tux, then go for it. From what I have witnessed on ships, that is about 2% of the male passengers and that's about it.

 

Sorry, I agree with your husband OP. If he doesn't want to wear a tux for whatever reason, and you force him to do so, he will usually not enjoy himself and dread formal night. :(

[dulcineahong]

Maybe i'm a minority here but i feel that if your dh doesn't want to wear a tuxedo and is not at all confortable about it, perhaps he should be allowed to just wear a nice suit or coordinating blazer and slacks. :)

 

I think as long as he looks good and makes the attempt, it should be a good enough compromise... why let him get all dressed up and steal the thunder from you. :)

 

Hey, at least yours is willing to dress up! My DH is balking at the thought of having to wear a blazer to dinner when he heard about formal night, even though he looks like a GQ model all dressed up! He's never cruised before :D

[shepp]

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If they are built like Cary Grant and are at ease wearing a tux, then go for it.

 

Actually, Grant's truly definitive outfit wasn't a tux, but the legendary dark suit he wore in North By Northwest. Yep, the same sort of suit that can be worn to Formal Night. And, frankly, a mere tux bestowing Grant's supreme elegance on Mr. Average Chunky Schlub is as likely as his wife putting on a Givenchy gown and suddenly becoming graceful as Audrey Hepburn. Sorry folks, but - sow's ears, silk purses, and the fantasy involved in Formal Night aside - ain't gonna happen. On the other hand, I've just shaved my head in hopes of becoming like Britney Spears. ;)

[Tina G]

I am a professional musician. In my field, we need formal clothes often - not easy to find, since I am a plus-size woman. Men usually buy them at the end of the season from the rental stores. They can be almost as cheap as renting, and some look very nice indeed. Just beware of fad styles.

[pg.]

Well, the only thing I could think of is trying to convince him that by buying a CLASSIC styled tux and all it entails, he will never have to think about what to pack for formal night again. He can wear the same penguin suit for years and years, and other then changing the color of the cumberbund or vest, he needs no creative skills in putting together his look. Women of course have it much harder.

 

I personally don't like the look up tuxes, they say " waiter" or " old" or " prom night" to me, so if hubby really really hates the idea I would let it go, frankly if my husband went on and on about what I should wear, and it was something I really wasn't comfortable with, I would get really p*ssed at him.

[paul929207]

I bought a tux about 10 years ago. I take it with me on every cruise. As mentioned above, my wife loves to see me wearing it.

 

Paul

[from the desert]

Just tell him that if he buys a tux for you, you'll wear whatever he picks out. Bet he ends up not buying one and you won't be sorry he didn't.

[RickSt]

Tuxes are all nice and fancy but a dark suit is far more practical and the guy can look just as nice. Dark suits can be worn to more events than a tux and you can change the look just by wearing a different colored shirt on different nights. That also gives the wife a choice. She can either wear something matching her man's suit or the shirt he has on with it.

Rick

[RodneyG]

If you do get your way and make your hubby wear a tux reluctantly , I'm pretty sure he will resent and dread every formal evening . I would. Making it fun might help. So why not go for something more interesting?

 

On my formal nights I wear a selection of 3 heavily and elaborately embroidered black silk mandarin type jackets bought in Vietnam

Nothing underneath them (IE no shirt) , black pants and black shoes. I'm a big bloke too (not asian ) of round 100 kgs and 6ft.

 

I have had a ton of ppl stop me and ask me where I got em etc , nothing but compliments when I wear them.

I feel like a $million and am comfortable, I feel a little strangled by a tux. I have seen a scotsman in full scots regalia , A lot of military uniforms , African garb and so forth.

One of the smartest guys I saw was an tall imposing native American (We called him Chief - he looked like one) and his formal clothes had a definate native american influence and he always truly looked majestic.

Considering I'm from South Africa I think I will try Nelson Mandela type shirts next cruise - thats his formal wear.

Perhaps theres something in your hubbys lineage or his past he can use in this regard without it being "fancy dress"

[Cathy p]

I love to see my guy in a 3 piece suit. His gray hair and beautiful blue eyes smiling at me is all I need.;)

[senatorgirth]

I'd like to convince DH to get a tux. We cruise enough that he would get enough wear out of it, over the years. I like the very formal look. Can you help me with some convincing arguments?

 

Here's my two cents worth. I think you should do the following:

1. tell him that you really love to see him in a tux

2. remind him that you only would like to see him wear it once in a great while (assuming you aren't cruising once a month, of course)

3. inform him that a decent used tux can be purchased for a reasonable sum (c. $200-300 for a full set up at a tux rental place)

4. explain to him that it matters to you

 

At the end of the day, it seems to me that an agreeable man would honor your most reasonable request. If he then still refuses to wear it, then he sounds pretty selfish to me.

[seattlec5]

Put on a good Cary Grant movie and watch it with him. Gush about how sexy men in tuxedoes look...and sigh as convincingly as you can.;)

 

Or.....try the opposite approach and tell him you're not sure if he should wear one, because he will look so sexy that all of the women on the ship will want him.:D

 

Depending on your age, you could also suggest Sean Connery in the original 007 films, or if your younger, Daniel Craig in Casino Royale. A good tux ads a certain something to the specialness of your cruise and will be remembered in your vacation photos years from now. He could also get some use out of it at home if you go to the symphony or the opera.

[stellalimelight]

Tell your wife if you where a tux, you should get lots of sex:) I think a really nice suit looks just as sexy. But you live with your wife I don't, so there you go.

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Shelley

[judyjbest]

My husband broke down and bought a tux when I found out he could buy one at one of the rental stores for a low price. (He's cheap!) Now he says he would have bought one a long time ago if he had known how comfortable they are. And, of course, you can tell him that all the guys in tuxes have their wives panties in their coat pockets!

[Times Prince]

I'd like to convince DH to get a tux. We cruise enough that he would get enough wear out of it, over the years. I like the very formal look. Can you help me with some convincing arguments?

I resisted at first but rented one for my first cruise at my wife's request. I LOVE IT !!!

Why?

- I feel great in it

- I feel handsome, and the sparkle in my wife's eyes says that I really am!

- It's the James Bond thing. Kinda macho, in an elegant way.

- Elastic waists - for when I over-eat :rolleyes:

- Me looking good helps make my wife look great.

- It makes me feel more wealthy and healthy than I am - which is true recreation.

But mainly - for the sparkle in my wife's eyes as she sees her handsome man. (Yes I know I said that before, but it really is worth saying twice)

I rented beforehand, and rented onboard (no luggage nuisance) and then bought a tux for a Panama cruise when the rental price was greater than the purchase price. I haven't regretted it at all.