OH NO.... The In-laws are coming!!!!

[Jasalth]

I would book a cruise with my in-laws if I could reset their watches before every port to 3 hours behind.... then I could either enjoy watching them run for the boat, or wave goodbye to them!

 

Then again, we have a lot of problems with my husbands family, from them purposely ruining his credit to not telling us his grandfather died, and with my husband being the beneficiary (his father passed 2 years ago, and he is his fathers only birth child) them hiding the legal info until they could work out a way to get it all themselves. It also doesn't help that his mother and one sister haven't been clean for 20+ years so...

 

My DH and 2 DS's say they will never cruise with my mom again. Then again... my mom normally pays for the balcony rooms for us, so I don't think they would REALLY turn it down! My mother is a GOGOGO!! person. We are.. well not. She is also the type who feels the need to see everything that is happening, even if she doesn't care about it and thinks everyone should to. I am her daughter, I am used to it, my husband and kids after 13 years still aren't!

 

Our upcoming cruise is the first of mine W/O my mom, worst part is.. I am 30 and scared to death because of it! =)

[fanda120608]

We have my wife's parents going with us on our first cruise coming up in October. I don't have a problem with it at all. Besides, we are all adults and can find things to do on our own.

[usafchick1980]

My fiance and I are both blessed as far as (soon to be)in-laws go. And I am not just saying that about my mom..he would agree..actually..they were friends before I even met him.

 

He only has my mom because my dad passed away 10 years ago.

 

I have never met his bio dad..and doubtful that I ever will..as he hasn't seen him in 12 years.

 

I tolerate his mom even more than he does, or anyone else in his family does for that matter..and my mom tolerates her even more than I do..she is a sweet person..can just be very overbearing at times. But as overbearing as she is..that is how mellow her husband is. He is a wonderful man.

 

I know that I said in another post that I think that a large ship would feel like a row boat with her. But I would not hesitate to invite her on a cruise..(just NOT my honeymoon..LOL). Hopefully next year.

[crewsweeper]

Well its happend the In-laws called and booked the same cruise that I just booked. It suppose to be VACTION. Magic 5/6/2012

 

 

I really dont mind I enjoy the time we get to spend with them plus it mothers day weekend. How many of yall travel with the Inlaws???

LOL....I thought it was a thread about a remake of the Falk-Arkin movie and they were coming back from the dead..:D

 

Sounds like a much more scary story:eek: But, alas, and sadly, something I will never experience. Just remember there'll be 4000+ other folks on the cruise and you don't have to spend every minute with them. For ports, find something you'd like to do tht they won't be interested in trying an d book it then offer them an alternative,even paying for the thing, e.g., "I'm going zip lining and off shore snorkeling. Thought you'd love to just lounge around the beach in a Cabana".

[kbmeow]

I did 10 days in italy with my inlaws. NEVER AGAIN. Hubby and MIl get along for a few days then bicker and I get put in the middle. And hey do not vacation the same way we do. Now if they wanted to cruise with us OK. But we will meet them for dinner and if they want to go on the excursions we do then fine. I am not going to be there entertainment. His parents are not bad people but get on my nerves after a few days. She has a big heart and it is in the right place but she is sometimes misguided. My mom is a PITA and does not travel well. We are doing some family things with her this year. We spent 4 days at a rented condo in MI for easter with his parents. I have decided I like to have my own car when visiting with is parents

[Cruisingsince87]

I've cruised with my in-laws and it wasn't bad at all. We decided that when we all went that we would basically just all do our own thing. Most of that came from the fact that what my husband and I find enjoyable on a cruise might not be there thing, plus this was their first cruise.

 

Prior to the trip I felt like a cruise advisor as my mother-in-law had ten billion questions. But it was fun seeing the excitement in her eyes with each one. I basically told her to go with her gut instinct when choosing excursions as only she and my father-in-law know what they would truly enjoy.

 

Surprisingly enough we saw quite a bit of each other on the ship without planning to. Which was always fun as we were able to catch each other up on what we'd been doing. We didn't have dinner together as my husband and I prefer to eat late while they prefer earlier, which also happened to be when other relatives were dining.

 

So for cruising with my in-laws, I'd totally do it again. But some of the other relatives that happened to be along....never again.

[celticd1]

NEVER, ever, ever would I cruise with my IL's. The constant bickering would drive me MAD. It's bad enough on land at holidays. :eek:

[BeccaBecca1713]

I would be highly irritated if the in-laws (or any other extended family for that matter) deliberately booked the same cruise because we were gonna be on it. My DH and I have opposing work schedules and rarely get that 1 on 1 alone time to just relax and enjoy one another's company.

 

I've enjoyed a large family cruise in the past, but if we had wanted this just for the 2 of us and that family member just "invited" themselves along, I think I'd take the hit and cancel!!

[PatrickZJD]

I've gone with my in-laws on one cruise, and although there were admittedly times it got to be almost unintentionally funny ("NO ENGLISH MOVIES!!" has become a great inside joke in the family), I enjoyed the experience a lot. Enough, in fact, to suggest that my in-laws come with us on our Hawaiian cruise to celebrate my MIL's upcoming retirement! I'm looking forward to going with my FIL to the USS Arizona, and I am sure that we won't be shadowing each other all 15 days, so things should continue to go just fine. After all, they'll be forward in the Spa balconies, and we'll be back in our aft balcony, and we'll just meet in the middle for dinner! :D

[babyher]

You know a thread like this , off topic it may be , is actually very theraputic.

 

Every once in a while ,especially right after a large holiday gathering like this past week. Sometimes you wonder "What is wrong with my family?" "Why can't IO get along with my sister/brother/mother etc?" ...Why am I dreading the Holidays with these people ?"

 

Then you read something like this and you don't feel like The Lone Ranger (One of my Dad's favorite sayings :))

 

Its everybody *LOL*

[gail811]

My FIL paid for and booked my very first cruise. He is the reason I am hooked on cruising now. :D At the end of that cruise my MIL fell ill. We were actually the first people escorted off the ship when we arrived back in Newport News. She had a heart attack later that day, and her health has been bad since. My FIL wanted so badly to cruise with us again, but we could not get my MIL back on a ship; she was convinced that something on that ship caused her illness (she always said it in a joking way) and would not consider it. We lost my FIL suddenly in late May. I will be forever grateful to him for introducing me to cruising, and for all the wonderful times we had together. I am one of the lucky ones; my in-laws have been wonderful to me.

[slk09]

Have gone on so many vacations with my all my in-laws (FIL, MIL, SIL &

her hubby and family) to the beach and Disney and both of our cruises

that I can't even imagine going alone now. We all get along so well

and the great thing about cruises is that we meet up at dinner

and maybe the show but sometimes we see them during the day

sometimes not. Everyone does their own thing. Our kids get along great

too. I know not all families get along and some dysfunction is expected:rolleyes:

But I'm glad our next cruise (on the Breeze) everybody already said

"sign me up"!:)

[st.marks]

I love to cruise with my mother in law because she pays for the entire trip. S&S card included. I love you mommie!

[Crusin6]

Travel with the in-laws? no way..never...nada...I would have to be out of my mind to travel with my in laws!!!!:eek:

[Crusin6]

We made the mistake of including my in-laws on our Disney World trip this past October. And while our relationship was great up until that point, they are no longer speaking to me and vice versa. There was a reason we moved 1800 miles away from family when we married.

we moved only 4 miles away and it worked for us!!! DH said to me once that I should just slap him silly if he ever suggested buying a house in the same town as his immeadiate family!!! We speak to them and see them...but they don't just drop by and will never ever be invited to vaction with us.

 

MY BIL once said at a family party.."Hey, we should all take a big family cruise next year..but no kids allowed!":confused: See what I mean about the in laws!!!:eek:

[babyher]

we moved only 4 miles away and it worked for us!!! DH said to me once that I should just slap him silly if he ever suggested buying a house in the same town as his immeadiate family!!! We speak to them and see them...but they don't just drop by and will never ever be invited to vaction with us.

 

MY BIL once said at a family party.."Hey, we should all take a big family cruise next year..but no kids allowed!":confused: See what I mean about the in laws!!!:eek:

 

It alwasy puzzled my mother that her side of the family always got along so well and my Dad's side of the family always bickered .

 

As we got older we said "Ma , you live in Connecticut, your sister lives in New York, Your Brother lives in Las Vegas , another brother lives in Pennsylvania, another sister lives in Florida.

 

Dad's entire family live within a half hour of eachother (one brother literally down the street and around the corner) When you are all up eachothers butt's it gets annoying

[happy cruzin]

Oh come one, most of us are just kidding! :p

 

We travel with groups all the time and there is one rule that should apply to all group sailings, including in-laws;

 

you're free to do whatever you want to. No one has to do anything with anyone unless you WANT to.

 

We always tell our friends that they're welcome to accompany us if they want to do what we're doing that day. And, we might want to tag along with them sometimes, but we don't have to. Afterall, we'll see them at dinner anyway.

 

With in-laws this might work well as there is an obvious age difference in most cases.

 

In any case...GOOD LUCK!!!!! :D

 

Agreed, great "rules" - that have always worked for us - no matter WHO you travel with!! :D

 

OP....just because they are on the ship with you should not mean you have to spend every minute with them. You and your DH should plan some things just for you....maybe dinner at the steak house, time at the piano bar or whatever YOU want to do.

 

When we travel with family we try and meet for dinner (most nights) but all of the other time is "ours" - everyone is off doing their own thing - and often we do not even see everyone except at dinner.

 

Set some expectations now....so that there are no surprises!! ;)

[Kryssa]

My husband is cruising this his in-laws in March :)

and my brother and sister and Grandma are coming too :)

 

I think we all get along just great as long as there is no "forced fun" as we call it. Nobody has to do anything they don't want to on vacation!

 

I think one of the reasons we have great relationships with our families is we don't live near eachother!

[joeyancho]

My brother in law and his girlfriend invited themselves on my 50th birthday cruise. She ruined it for everyone. Nothing was good enough for her. She was a total monster. Poor slob married her.

[John1928]

Sure we would (and do) vacation with our families/in-laws. Usually at least a couple times per year.

 

My wife LOVES to travel with her in-laws (both parents and siblings), and I also enjoy traveling with her (immediate) relatives (the extended family has some wackkos...). In fact, we have a cruise with my brother, sister (and her hubby and kids), my parents, and my wife's mother coming up this winter.

 

It's actually really nice having the larger group as there are opportunities for people to try activities with their friends/relatives that their spouse isn't into (diving, zip-lining, spa stuff, late comedy shows, etc.). This makes for really enjoyable MDR conversation in the evening too as everyone is able to share different stories and experiences.

[trptplayer22]

We cruised with my inlaws the first time we cruised. I loved it. I think it made me happier than my DH. My inlaws are alot of fun and I always enjoy being with them. Plus my mother inlaw is a riot.

[Honeyroastedmelnut]

I know I am fortunate with my in-laws ... I really like spending time with them. For my upcoming cruise I am very excited about my MIL and FIL joining us. Still trying on getting my dad and step-mom to come as well as all of the siblings and their spouses.

 

Cruises are the best way to travel or spend time with family. You can do as much or as little with each other yet still feel like you are getting both family time and vacation time.

[twentypearls]

The only way I would take my mother in law on a cruise with me is in an urn.

 

OMG!! I almost fell out my chair laughing!

[JennLuvs2Cruise]

Oh boy, I would NEVER cruise with my mother in law. She is way too annoying and "in your face". And she would just try to take over everything. I like to be relaxed & in peace while on vacation. Definitely don't get that from her! :eek:

[Yvonne]

DH and I will be cruising on the Carnival Freedom in January with my Mom. We took my Mom and Dad on a Disney Wonder cruise a few years ago too. We enjoy traveling together, but don't necessarily stay joined at the hip each day either. We tend to "do our own thing" and then just meet up for dinner and the show.