HELP!! Fiance now scared to cruise!

[AlaskaAtLast]

Tell him you'll keep him in bed the entire cruise.....then don't! LOL

 

Harriet

 

It's your honeymoon. Book an inside cabin and stay busy (wink, wink) until you get to the ports. Then he couldn't possibly fall off... the ship anyway.

[garycarla]

seriously, this is a joke right.

 

You do know more people are killed each year by vending machines falling on them then go overboard a cruise ship and die.

 

Come on get a grip

 

This us a good one.

 

And, though a bit hard to swallow, the comment about getting a new fiance might be worth a consideration.

 

Millions of people cruise each year. Do you think they would stay in business if people were falling off their ships?

 

This is about the most irrational thing I have heard in some time. What else is he afraid of.

[triptolemus]

If he really doesn't want to turn his man card in and stay home, he could walk around the ship wearing a fall protection harness with a lanyard attached to the ship. Just ask chengkp75 -- this is typical of what crew use to stay out of the drink.

 

He'll look exceptionally manly wearing all this gear... hard hat is optional, but I'd go with the whole package. Maybe get him a pink one.

 

[luddite]

Getting married is more dangerous than cruising.

 

There are VERY few instances of people 'falling' overboard.

Most are intentional and almost all of the rest are just stupidity chlorinating the gene pool.

[conandrob240]

Good lord, people, the man has a phobia. You can try rationalizing but, as we all know, phobias aren't rational and can be terrifying and debilitating. If he is truly this scared, cancel the cruise and book a nice hotel somewhere you both might enjoy. Why would you want to drag a terrified human being somewhere they are afraid of? Especially for a honeymoon.

 

Now, a suggestion to help see if he can overcome his fear- do you live local to the cruise port? Did you use a TA to book ( or know a local TA)? A TA can often get access to a ship the day it comes into port for a tour or lunch. They are often allowed to bring guests. You have a while to try to arrange this so he can get a feel for the actual ship.

[triptolemus]

Good lord, people, the man has a phobia.

 

So you're a TA and a psychiatrist -- excellent! Thank you, doctor!

[LrgPizza]

He might go over and he might not. Get a good insurance policy, and make sure you are the beneficiary.

[conandrob240]

So you're a TA and a psychiatrist -- excellent! Thank you, doctor!

 

It doesn't take a psychologist to recognize an irrational fear. But, since you asked, I actually have a PhD in Industrial Psychology with a FT job in that field. Being a TA is a small, fun, side job for me!

[Cruiser Who Knows Nothing]

It doesn't take a psychologist to recognize an irrational fear. But, since you asked, I actually have a PhD in Industrial Psychology with a FT job in that field. Being a TA is a small, fun, side job for me!

 

 

Drops mic...bam.

 

 

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[garycarla]

Good lord, people, the man has a phobia. You can try rationalizing but, as we all know, phobias aren't rational and can be terrifying and debilitating...

 

If truly a phobia and realypysch issue, okay.

 

If just a paranoid irrational naive person, think again. How many more skeletons in the closet?

 

Some of things that everyday people believe make me wonder. Like those that think envelope glue has bugs in it.

 

Or that our moon mission was faked.

 

Or......

[triptolemus]

It doesn't take a psychologist to recognize an irrational fear. But, since you asked, I actually have a PhD in Industrial Psychology with a FT job in that field. Being a TA is a small, fun, side job for me!

 

Well, alrighty then... I was joking with you, mostly but I find your area of study fascinating. I work in occupational safety. IWO psychology is a huge gap in my field. Only now, within the past 4 or 5 years, are we starting to take a genuine look at behavioral habits as they relate to worker safety combined with a healthy balance of not blaming the worker for hazardous conditions present in the workplace. It is a complex dynamic in need of a displaced academic approach. For the most part, though, where the rubber meets the road, we don't get it right... at all.

 

WAY off topic now, but I'd be delighted to meet you on a ship one day and chat a bit about the topic.

 

Anyway... blah blah... cheers! :)

Edited March 13, 2015 by triptolemus

[LMaxwell]

You can't fall off a cruise ship.

 

You have to climb a chest height railing and then jump.

 

Repeat. You can't fall off a cruise ship.

[cadien]

Good lord, people, the man has a phobia. You can try rationalizing but, as we all know, phobias aren't rational and can be terrifying and debilitating. If he is truly this scared, cancel the cruise and book a nice hotel somewhere you both might enjoy. Why would you want to drag a terrified human being somewhere they are afraid of? Especially for a honeymoon.

 

Now, a suggestion to help see if he can overcome his fear- do you live local to the cruise port? Did you use a TA to book ( or know a local TA)? A TA can often get access to a ship the day it comes into port for a tour or lunch. They are often allowed to bring guests. You have a while to try to arrange this so he can get a feel for the actual ship.

 

Can it really qualify as a phobia if he was totally fine with the trip up until reading sensationalized recent news items?

[sfaaa]

Tell him you'll keep him in bed the entire cruise.....then don't! LOL

 

Harriet

 

Good luck to that after he reads about the thread on scary bed bugs.

[LMaxwell]

Let me pick a few nits with your statement. I agree that you cannot "accidentally" fall overboard. You can, however, make a very stupid decision (whether fueled by alcohol or the immortality of youth), and fall overboard. This is not an "accident" regardless of how tragic it ends, it took semi-conscious decision to put themselves in harms way. This is probably the most common cause of overboards, people sitting on balcony railings, people climbing around balcony dividers, or as another poster on another thread posted a picture link, standing on top of a lifeboat at sea.

 

Unless the OP's fiancé is a center for the NBA, there is no way that he could fall overboard, given a minimum railing height of 42", and many are 46". I've been working on ships for 40 years, including 4 years on cruise ships, and have never once seen a person go overboard, and that includes crewmembers working over the side of the vessel.

Hi chengkp I don't want to hijack this thread but I've always wanted to discuss lifeboats, evacuations, complications of such, etc. If you're game let me know and I will make a separate new post in ask a cruise section. [emoji568]

[LMaxwell]

Good luck to that after he reads about the thread on scary bed bugs.

Or if he hears honeymoons on ships cause kids. [emoji51]

[Solararc]

Or if he is a recovering coke addict, I hear the cooks know where it's at

 

 

*Living large one week at a time*

[triptolemus]

*Living large one week at a time*

 

Must you keep doing this?

 

Can't you put that in your signature?

Edited March 13, 2015 by triptolemus

[Solararc]

As I've told you before that is in my signature even tho it doesn't show up in my profile I don't type it every time

 

 

*Living large one week at a time*

[triptolemus]

As I've told you before that is in my signature even tho it doesn't show up in my profile I don't type it every time

 

 

*Living large one week at a time*

 

You haven't told me that... but you probably told someone else.

 

You're using a mobile forums app... I get it now.

 

Maybe you should just delete it. I mean, I trust you're living large... those who live large don't need to tell anybody about it... they just do it! :)

[Solararc]

I like my signature I'll not change it, if it bothers you please ignore it

 

 

*Living large one week at a time*

[triptolemus]

I like my signature I'll not change it, if it bothers you please ignore it

 

Done! Ignore list!

 

Too bad, I find you witty and insightful.

 

But I can't stand signatures.

 

Enjoy!

[Solararc]

Awe come on let's hug it out[emoji111]️

 

 

*Living large one week at a time*

[shealea]

How about you find out the number of folks that cruise each year. Google it. Everyone, except for a very, very, very tiny few, go on a cruise and do not fall overboard.

 

And if he has a fear of that, remind him that he does not have to stand right at the railing to have a nice time enjoying the outdoor decks and views and oceans. I get a little nervous when standing right at the railing and looking over. Not sure why, but I do. I feel better when being a bit further back from the railing relaxing.

[Kingofwylietx]

Or if he hears honeymoons on ships cause kids. [emoji51]

 

It doesn't need to be a honeymoon.....we have a Princess daughter and Norwegian son. Yup, seriously....no joke. We were actually a bit nervous when we took our Disney cruise.....but, alas, no Disney child materialized.

 

 

What I will add to this discussion is that more people die driving to the cruise ship than fall overboard while on it. That is a statistical fact.