I agree
We sailed 2004 then 4 yrs later one of the waitstaff kept looking at us at tea time then made his way over to our table
he remembered us from the cruise 4 yrs previous
Plus people do become friendly with some of the crew & it was nice on the small ships as you got to chat with some when they were not busy
You can check on O website just scroll down the page
https://www.oceaniacruises.com/value#value-packages
For cruise critic search feature on a computer
go to the top right when on the Oceania home page
Click on SEARCH just under your CC user name
put in the keyword hit Enter
On phones it probably is different
Oceania includes the gratuities for their butlers but you are free to add more if you choose
https://oceaniacruises.zendesk.com/hc/en-us/articles/360005476793-What-is-your-gratuity-policy-
Some think the butler is theirs alone & he stands by waiting to act on your wishes when you call 😁
Some CD's are better than others
some talk too much on the public system & we would like to avoid those ones
But we go for the itinerary so have to take the good with the bad 🙂
even with ports you dock in can be risky if the weather or seas are bad
We have yet to make it to Holyhead Wales
I would look at the port of Southampton & see what ships sail from there & do round trips
https://www.cruisecritic.com/cruiseto/cruiseitineraries.cfm?port=111&depcity=270
Then look at number of tender ports if you want to have a few as possible
Late June early July might be safe but pack a rain jacket no matter
If you want to do a deviation fly in early or stay after the cruise yes you can work with O 270 days out to find flights that work for you
or if you just want to choose flights & routings
After you both agree on the flights you will pay a non refundable deviation fee currently $175 pp
I believe you can ask to have them ticketed after final payment
Or you can just take the air credit then when flights open up book your own air
especially if you want BIZ class
Did I mention before NEVER BOOK BIZ CLASS WITH O
JMO
Does he need a passport for the cruise ?
Some closed looped cruises US citizens can just use their birth certificate & D.L
How is the cruise booked ? married name ?
Maybe just use current passport