Gary - I always enjoy your very thoughtful and reasonable posts! IMO your methodology in tipping is well thought and more than reasonable and respectful. Again IMO, the butler letter, while well intended, can be perceived as a power play, with the customer yielding all the power. Some here seem to use it as if waving a carrot in front of the bunny. When I see terms such as “I expect my butler to PRESENT his/her self” and of course include a small piece of the carrot in the envelope, after I put my eyes back in their sockets, to me I see a total and utter abuse of what can and should be a very mutually beneficial relationship. Like you, I tip very generously, I’ve NEVER had bad service and I always talk WITH the butler/steward and not AT them. There is an old expression “conceit in weakest minds, strongest works”. I certainly see that in some of the comments here. Thank you for your very well intended and informative posts.